The Princess Code



This post used to be a sub-page of my About section. Trying to slimming down the layout made me convert it into this, as I didn’t want the Code to be lost.

On some points in this blog the term “princess” is used. In a time and society where this term is highly associated with pretty girls in flaunty dresses it might need a little bit of explanation. This is mine.

Back when I started this blog, one of my big inspirations was Princess Skye, a now-retired Lolita blogger who strongly believed in this quote from one of my favourite books, Hodgson-Burnett’s A Little Princess:

“Whatever comes,” she said, “cannot alter one thing. If I am a princess in rags and tatters, I can be a princess inside. It would be easy to be a princess if I were dressed in cloth of gold, but it is a great deal more of a triumph to be one all the time when no one knows it.”

I still think this is a great quote, and I believe that there is more than the Disney take to being a princess. I tame dragons. I fight for myself. I wear armour and pretty ruffled dresses alike. I have my sword, and I have grace. I can sit around a fire with rugged adventurers and drink my fill, and I can – as a proper young lady – sit at the head of the table at a banquet. I can do all these things, and there is no limit to what I can do.

Back in those days Skye also wrote something called “The Princess Code”. As in many other cases, these are no rules, just guidelines. They are to be interpreted. I don’t even hurrah to each and every point on the list. Also, they are definitely not limited to a gender. I didn’t write this, but I want it to go on.

The Code

~ A Princess inspires others to follow their hopes and dreams through pursuing her own.

~ A Princess greets everyone with a welcoming smile, melting the hearts of friends and disarming her enemies.

~ A Princess has dignity, which protects her from the opinions and spite of ignorant people.

~ A Princess always looks beautiful, even when she is asleep.

~ A Princess aims for perfection in every step.

~ A Princess should be given fresh flowers everyday, even if she has to give them to herself.

~ A Princess grows in recognition and stature in proportion to how much she treats others as royalty.

~ A Princess reflect’s her inner beauty in her aesthetic choices.

~ A Princess goes to war against the violence of incivility with the weapons of etiquette and prodigal generosity.

~ A Princess lives each day from the heart, expressing herself freely and treasuring every moment.

~ A Princess has the right to spend her funds on beautiful things she does not need because beauty in itself is priceless.

~ A Princess should follow her heart and believe in her dreams, even if the whole world seems to be against her.

~ A Princess respects her environment and nurtures the beauty of nature.

~ A Princess is never too busy to give a kind word or smile where it is needed.

~ A Princess’s most precious jewel is Hope, which lights her darkest days and shows her the beauty in every soul she meets.

(Princess Skye, now a Lost Princess)


10 Lessons about Self-Care… from Don’t Starve

Self-care is important, and when you look at it right you can find lessons about it basically everywhere. In this case we’ll have a look at my current gaming obsession, Klei’s Don’t Starve.

Picking flowers is good for you.

Same goes for potted plants but skipping through a meadow making a big bouquet of wild flowers is so much more picturesque. It’s also a great opportunity to make daisy chains because…

Flower crowns let you keep your sanity.

I always feel better with one on and I don’t believe in those wonderful accessories being for one gender only. Flower crowns for everyone!

Don’t go into the dark!

And by “go into the dark” I actually mean “give in too much to depression”. There is always something that can be done to get you at least a tiny bit out of that despair and hollowness.

Fires make the dark much more bearable.

Because most landlords and -ladies won’t permit campfires in your flat you might want to substitute them with a candle, though…

Stay well-fed.

Good food does so much for your health. Instead of just stuffing yourself with store-bought sweets and fast food try to get yourself to make something with a bit more substance. Cooked or steamed veggies with a cream sauce are easy, work well with rice or pasta and make for a much more satisfying experience.Survivor Winona

Making things is super effective to replenish your sanity.

The sense of accomplishment is good for you, even if it’s only a small thing that you made! It’s also good for the environment and there’s nothing that can beat the feeling of getting compliments on your self-made stuff.

Make a home base.

Whether you’re a homebody or you travel a lot, get yourself a place to call home. Alternatively pin pictures of your loved ones to the inside of your suitcase lid and get battery-powered fairy lights and a light-weight cozy blanket, anyway, create something that makes you feel right and welcome wherever you are.

Verdant Skin SetContact with others is key.

We don’t always have pigs in neat little houses around but this also goes for humans. While I need a lot of alone-time myself I just know that it is the contact with other (friendly) creatures that regularly keeps me from going completely crazy. Even if it’s just hanging out and playing Don’t Starve Together or making dinner. A night with friends doesn’t need a lot of preparation or to be fancy. Sometimes even a phone call will do the trick.

Sometimes staying put to just work things out and get back to your strength is the right thing to do.

If you go right back out when you’re hurting, hungry, twitchy or all of the above it’s most likely to get even worse. Stay in your home base, feed yourself, get some rest, get some entertainment and then get some small, save shit done, and you’ll be out there slaying monsters (or go about your everyday life, or both) sooner than you’d think.

And finally,

Don’t let setbacks get you down.

In Don’t Starve you’ll die trying but each time you’ll learn something new and last a bit longer. While I wouldn’t recommend the death part in real life this is an important lesson anyway. Most setbacks are temporary. And even if they’re not you’ll find a way around it. Maybe it’ll work out right at the next try. Maybe it’ll take time. Maybe you’ll find something else to try that works even better for you. But don’t give up. Care for yourself. Not giving up is self-care at it’s finest.

Dancing Pig

P.S.: I’m not getting sponsored by Klei Entertainment, I just really love this game as you might have noticed thanks to me referring to it every five seconds or so.

P.P.S.: All pictures and animations in this post belong to Klei (which rhymes with “play”) and were taken from the wonder- and incredibly useful Don’t Starve Wiki. Every picture will lead you to the relevant article when clicked on.

Mori Challenge Revisited: Question 17

17. What’s your favorite season and why?

To be honest I find it very hard to actually pick one. I usually say Autumn, but that one only wins by about a hair’s breadth. I love all of them, and here is why:

Winter | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comWinter is a time of silence and renewal. It’s the time of the year’s change and it is also the darkest time of the year – time for hibernation and introspection. I love the feeling of possibilities at New Year’s. I also love snow – if we get some, that it – and to see my breath when I’m outside. Without death there is no rebirth, and without Winter there’d be no Spring. Winter is a time to curl up with a cup of hot chocolate, to have lavish dinners with friends and to stay in and play and craft and decide what you want to be when everything thaws, including you, and the Sun comes back out.

Spring | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comSpring is a time of growing power. It has wonderful holidays, Oimelc, the day of ewe’s milk and spring cleaning, Eastertide, when everything grows and is lush and bright, and Beltaine, the night of bonfires and reckless abandon.
Spring makes me feel particularly connected to the growing earth and particularly angry at people who treat our planet badly.
It’s a time to sow and plant and watch things grow and celebrate every new ray of sunshine and make a holiday out of the first day that you can go outside without shoes on.

Summer | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comSummer is the time of LARPing, of adventures, of campfires in the night and making a contest out of who can make the biggest splash jumping from the pontoon in the lake. This is when my work is most fun, when I don’t have to wear my heavy parka, when we get the most produce and when we can stuff ourselves with strawberries when the customers aren’t looking. It’s time for sunburns and complaining about the heat and explorations in parks and forests nevertheless, it’s a season of stubbornness and my heart swelling to such a giant size that I sometimes fear my chest will burst.

Autumn | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comAutumn is the time when all comes to a close, as Winter is the time where everything is already closed. Autumn is a time for preparation, for picking apples and collecting conkers and chestnuts and making preserves. I can marvel at the beautiful colours that the leaves turn to and take in the wind that grows stonger and the rain that grows more frequent. Autumn is a time for tea. My birthday heralds Autumn and maybe that’s the reason why I like it a tiny bit more than the other seasons, but that might be because of pumpkins and fog and the veil between the worlds being thinnest now, too.

You see, I can’t really decide, so I decide to love them all the same.

What is your favourite season?

This post is part of the 30 Question Mori Kei Challenge. For other posts from this challenge, please look here for all the questions!


graphic by Nia

I first read about 28 Days of Blogging over at Julia’s blog in her 2017 review. It took me about half a week of thinking and ditching the thought and picking it up again to decide that I should do this: Try to blog every day during February.

What are my goals for those 28 days? Why do I want to do that, and won’t it put me under a lot of unnecessary pressure?

Yeah… yeah, it probably will. Anyway, what I want to do with this is…

Develop a blogging routine and re-discover my voice. I feel like I have been inconsistent in frequency, and I also feel like I don’t exactly know what I’m doing at the moment with my blog. Am I a weird fae person from under the hill making life as magical as possible? Am I an eco punk telling stories about her hopefully sustainable life? Am I one of the leftover background characters of Desperate Romantics? Or all of the above?
I do know that I want to keep blogging, I just want a bit more structure. It might also help with my video editing routine because, you know, I still need that, too.

Build a buffer of posts for times when I feel particularly bad or don’t have the time to post directly. Having no surplus means stress, and I don’t like that. While I might not be able to build up reserves during February the practise of writing consistently might come in handy with this.

Redesign (or rebrand? Who knows.) this blog. I’ve been wanting to do this for quite a while now, and I want to show you my progress and thoughts for a few new design elements, too.

So I want to reconnect. Regroup with myself. Regain confidence.

I can’t wait to start this journey. Maybe I won’t make it, but I’d like to know that I tried.

Other blogs taking part (in German, mostly):………

Year of the Moon

Year of the Moon | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comIf last year was the Year of the Star, this is the Year of the Moon. It all started with Méa pointing out the numbers of the Major Arcana matching the year, so she deserves the credit for this (don’t worry, her blog might be in German but there is a translation option in the sidebar!). I’m always equally giddy and anxious in the face of new beginnings, and this year is no different.

It’s strange how the Moon is female in almost all languages and cultures but it German the genus is masculine. Not that this stopped my mother when I was little, and so I grew up looking up to this celestial body seeing a woman, most of the time, and old crone, so old that gender almost didn’t apply anymore, but still some sort of Mother, capital M. One who taught me about pain and power through blood and light. I grew up with a consciousness for Moon phases and with the knowledge that my Moon Blood was nothing to be ashamed of. The Moon Crone has always been with me, always listening to me, and always given me new hope as she goes through her cycles, renewing herself every time.Year of the Moon | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comThe Moon is a symbol of Magic, of witchcraft, of the feminine and the dark. It’s a sign for me to meditate, to gather all my different sides and aspects and bring them together for insight. The Moon is about intuition, about dreams and the fantastic. But nightmares, too, are dreams and the moon brings transformation and – even named for her – lunacy. It’s in her silvery light that we see shadows become something more menacing, that we become feral and mystical and bright-eyed. She moves the tides like our emotions move, they rise and fall, sometimes more vividly under her light.

The moon means passion, but not necessarily sexual passion, rather she means passion for yourself. It’s your dreams you will follow, your needs that should be fulfilled, this is about self-care, about healthy egocentricity.
Yet, fair warning, with all that was written about transformation, unseelie desires (because we all have them, and that’s good) and lunacy it’s sometimes hard not to lose oneself in the trance, the light, the blood. What can seem like a path to your true self in one moment might become obsession with an ideal that would look quite off by daylight.

Year of the Moon | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comThis is my goal for the Year of the Moon: To find myself through all this strangeness and always stay who I am even if I transform every now and then into something that might not look the same, and sometimes vanish. To meditate, to come to my senses by sometimes giving in to madness. To be passionate, especially about myself. Because I deserve it, and I care for myself. I am a child of the Moon Crone, and she watches me. I want to make her proud.


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P.S.: Quick note on the pictures
1) is the front page of my current bullet journal thing (that I’m not sure about whether it qualifies as a bujo or not) and I really like it.
2)  is the last picture I took on New Year’s Eve and I was pleasantly surprised how good it came out even though I didn’t use a tripod. I took that as a great sign for this year.
3) actually shows not a Tarot but a Lenormand card but I liked the illustration so much. The number assigned to the Moon in this set of cards is 32, not 18, though.

Happy 2018 ♥

Happy 2018 ♥ | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comWe’ve done it. 2017 is behind us, and with it all those exhausting things that happened. I’ll keep the bright memories with the others and I’m looking forward to the year that lies stretched out before me with hope and curiosity.

Happy 2018 ♥ | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comI hope you had a great New Year’s Eve and didn’t get burned or ‘sploded. Ours was too windy to light the sparklers on the balcony from which we watched the fireworks but it was still magnificent.

Happy 2018 ♥ | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comMy main resolution for 2018 and all the years to come after is more self-care. When I looked at the fireworks lighting up Hanover and was happy to spot so many of my favourites – white chrysanthemum ones that shoot up as normal rockets first and only bloom after those have glittered up the sky – it dawned on me that I actually deserve good things. All the good things. I’m not that good at self-care yet but the first thing I did was take the first week of the year off – to concentrate on the things I really want. And I’m learning.

Happy 2018 ♥ | Hedgefairy https://hedgefairy.wordpress.comThis is the year of the Moon, and I’ll make it my own.

What are your resolutions?